Flowers for your inner child (Photo credit: Mara ~earth light~)
Mother’s Day is a day that brings warm thoughts and joy to the hearts of many people. But for those of us that grew up with mean and narcissistic mothers it is not.
I am fortunate to have wonderful children who have throughout their lives have helped me experience warm thoughts and joy on Mother’s Day. Today is different. They are all grown up and 3 of them are working today and the 4th is spending it with her dying grandmother in law to be. I am ok with this, they did not forget me, all called first thing this morning to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day and say I love you.
Between them all being busy today and D working out-of-state I am left to spend the day alone and without the distraction of others around me I started to be bombarded with negative emotions, intrusive thoughts and images of all the horrible things my mother has done over the years.
This is NOT how Mother’s Day is supposed to be spent. And to be quite honest it pisses me off that at the age of 42 my mother can still ruin my day. The reality is she isn’t, I am.
So how do I change this? How do I turn this day around and make it special? How does anyone that has grown up with a horrible mother keep from spending the day depressed?
As I sat here pondering this thought my loving husband sent me the following text while on a break at work.
“Happy Mother’s Day! I Love You! DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF TODAY.”
This text inspired an idea.
I know that I am not the only one struggling today so I would like to present the following challenge to all those out there who are struggling to get through today.
Mother’s Day Challenge
Imagine what it would have been like or what it would be like if you did have a loving mother. What NICE things do you think she would have done for you? Make a list of them, they don’t have to be big things, sometimes the little things are the most special.
Now pick some of them(I recommend at least 3) and DO THESE NICE THINGS FOR YOURSELF TODAY.
Be the loving mother to that hurt child you carry inside you.
My 3 NICE things I am going to do today are:
1. Make my favorite meal. 2. Paint my fingernails and toe nails. 3. Take myself on a nature walk down by the river and soak up the beauty of it all.
What are your nice things that you will do for yourself today?